Online Dating: 3 Tips Before you Meet in Real Life (IRL)

Congratulations! Not only have you matched with someone but you flirted long enough to set up an actual in person date. All is fine and dandy until all of the “what ifs” start circulating in your head the night before the big night. What if they’re really good at taking selfies and they look completely different in person?!

WHAT IF THEY THINK I LOOK DIFFERENT?!

What if they expect me to put out because you know.. we did meet online?!
Since first dates are always nerve racking whether its a mutual friend, classmate or a spontaneous swipe match, everyone goes through a million ‘what ifs’ to prepare for the worst possible scenario, which is completely psychotic but it’s human nature. Well ”“what if”” I told you I could help prevent your mini mental breakdowns and give you three tips that will promise a less awkward first encounter?!

SOCIAL MEDIA:

If everyone hasn’t realized that its now 2016, social media is being used by every single person on planet earth and there is no excuse for not connecting on at least one. If your potential date can figure out how to download a dating app then I’m pretty sure they can figure out how to download either Snapchat, Facebook, Insta or even freaking LinkedIn.
I understand that some dignified daters out there are doing some soul searching by deleting all social media and relying solely on their texting game. Totally respectable, but if they are relying on a dating app to find a potential partner then I don’t really buy it. Absolutely no excuses for not having social media unless they’re living under a rock and in that case do you even want to date a caveman?!

Alright alright, maybe I’m being too harsh if they really just hate the idea social media…but if they have a phone then here is my second tip.

FACETIME:

Now I’m sure that everyone is familiar with the term and TV show Catfish, if not then let me fill you in. ”Catfish: adj<nowiki>; false-identity profiles </nowiki>made in hope to start a relationship created on a throne of lies. ”Falling victim to Catfish is something that everyone needs to avoid at all costs. Someone can easily create fake social media accounts but you can’t fake the real deal of FaceTiming. I know it can be awkward to initiate and you may come off paranoid but it will be way more awkward when you can’t even recognize your date, trust me.

So what if someone’s online picture is outdated and have since then gained inexplicable amount of weight, dyed their hair and have grown the wildest beard you can imagine?! You have a right to know about such drastic changes because you have been excited to meet the dreamy person in picture #1. To an even crazier level.. what if they aren’t even the same identity that they have been telling you all along. What if Jessica is actually Jerry and is hoping that you’ll look past that fact because you have made such an emotional connection? I’m being completely ridiculous and oversuspicious, that would never happen right?! Wrong. It happens more than you can imagine and with a simple FaceTime you can steer clear from these unfortunate experiences.
Okay, so now you have added them on social media and/ or Face-timed so what else could possibly go wrong now?!

DEFINING THE DATE

There are too many first date ideas where do you even begin to decide?! In today’s reality your first options are going to the movies or ‘Netflix and Chill’ at someone’s house. Both of these choices include limited communication, sexual assumptions and unrealistic expectations. Yes, you can go to the movies the first date and have a splendid time but realistically being thrown in a dark setting with someone you find attractive usually leads to being physical before you even realize the opening credits have finished.

Texting conversations are one thing and now being in person it’s a completely different ballgame. Just because you sent a plethora of naughty texts doesn’t mean you have to deliver the first date or feel pressured into doing such. Figure out what all the flirting, texting, talking really means and truthfully try to get on the same page before the date even happens. Impulsively deciding on your physical attraction is on you but if there isn’t a mutual understanding on what will be happening by the end of the date then you’re in for a wild ride.

The night may end in a face slap, unwanted groping and offensive assumptions that you were going to be in the sheets with no guarantee of a phone call the day after. That’s the tricky part of online dating because majority of users assume its a quick hook-up but there are plenty of people searching for a possible love connection. Once you are open about your wants and needs of the date then the rest is left to for the universe to decide.

It could lead to exciting, sexual tension but it has to be on your terms as well. I don’t care if your date bought the ticket and expects to get something in return, you better hold your head high and place your uber order before they can blink twice.
Take these three tips and embrace your boldness in wanting to know the person you’re going to meet and the expectations of the date . Time is priceless and if you’re out there going on dates with fakers, assumptioners and liars you could be missing out on the real profiles that perfectly matches yours.

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